Holding Space, Not Fantasies – The Boundaries of Explicit Erotic Outdoor Boudoir Photography
Why I don't cross the line — and how that protects your erotic truth.
There have been instances where conversations that began professionally gradually shifted in tone. Questions like “Do you want to see more? Just ask me.” or statements like “I’m horny, but I’m serious about booking.” One ex-client, while drunk, once messaged me saying, “I'm drunk and horny, give me access to the photo galleries of your clients — I’ll pay $3,000 USD for it.” That energy doesn’t belong in this space.
Boudoir photography is often misunderstood. For some, it’s merely about nudity, sensuality, or erotic appeal. But for those of us who have stood behind the lens — and especially for those brave enough to stand in front of it — we know it’s something deeper. It's about reclamation, vulnerability, embodiment. And as a photographer, my role is to hold space for those truths — not to fulfill fantasies.
When a Client Wants to Be Seen
There are times when someone reaches out not just to book a session, but to be witnessed. They send intimate photos of themselves or their partner and say, “Do you think she’ll look sexy in the photos?” Or sometimes even more directly: “Would you love to fuck her?” Or “Would you love to fuck me?” It’s vulnerable. Sometimes beautiful, other times confusing.
That need to be seen — to feel desirable, to feel affirmed — is real. I get it. But it’s important to say this: my job is to create a space of trust, not validation through desire. If you're unsure of how to describe the type of boudoir session you want, I welcome reference photos that speak to the emotion, style, or mood you’re drawn to. Some clients feel more comfortable sending photos they’ve found online instead of trying to describe what they want in words — and that’s completely valid.
Sometimes those photos are explicit, and that’s also okay — as long as they’re shared with the intention of communicating a creative vision. What matters is that everything remains consensual, respectful, and aligned with the energy we want to co-create.
I can hold space for intimacy, but not for confusion.
I can witness your vulnerability, your pleasure, your truth — as long as it’s shared with intention.
On Erotic Curiosity, Boundaries, and Responsibility
There are photographers who willingly become part of their clients’ fantasies — and that’s totally valid if it’s done with consent, integrity, and intention. But that’s not my role.
There’s nothing wrong with seeking validation or pleasure in the erotic, but my studio is designed for something different: an artistic journey where you —not my desires— are the center. While I may be fully present in the sensorial energy of a session — attuned to emotion, sensuality, and connection — I am here as an artist, not a participant: sometimes a witness, sometimes a guide, rarely a mirror — but never a fantasy, and never a healer unless your own process names it that way.
My work is sensual, yes. Fully explicit and erotic — sometimes including close-up photos — when the client requests. But it’s never transactional in a sexual way. It’s about helping someone connect with their body, their truth, their power — not about me being part of their private fantasies.
To be absolutely clear:
I do not offer sexual services, nor do I rent or provide models for erotic participation.
My work is rooted in artistic expression, trust, and mutual respect — not fantasy fulfillment.
What About Couples or Extra Participants?
All sessions are treated with complete discretion. Any personal details, shared references, or photos taken are kept private and never disclosed without written permission.
Some clients want to include their partner or another person in their session. That’s entirely possible — as long as everyone involved is of legal age, has provided full consent, a photocopy of their ID, and signs a model release.
I do not provide or hire models. If you’d like to bring someone into your session, they must be someone you trust — someone who understands the nature of the shoot and is comfortable participating respectfully. Everything must be agreed upon ahead of time. There are no surprises.
When Clients Want to See More
New clients often ask to see more photos — from my website, Instagram, or even Twitter — in an attempt to understand how far a session can go or to validate their own bodies, including their genitals. I understand the curiosity and the vulnerability behind those requests. But it’s important to set this boundary clearly:
All galleries are private. You will only be able to view the photos I’ve already made available online. These are the only photos for which the client signed a model release letter and explicitly authorized their use for web, print, marketing, forums, and other platforms. No additional photos are available beyond what is publicly shared.
This protects my clients, my work, and the integrity of the experience we create together.
Creating the Right Energy
Consent is ongoing — we check in before, during, and after. You’re never expected to do anything that doesn’t feel right in your body. Even my proximity is part of that consent. Some clients have told me, "Please don’t come too close," and I honor that entirely — you’re free to define the distance at which you want to be photographed.
The clients I love working with are the ones who approach this experience with sincerity, curiosity, and respect. They may feel nervous, excited, unsure, or wildly confident. All are welcome. What matters is that we share an understanding:
This is a creative, professional space — sensual, emotional, and safe.
If you come with that energy, I’ll meet you there — and together we’ll create something unforgettable.
These boundaries aren't walls — they are invitations. They allow us to enter a space of trust, so that what we create together is not only beautiful, but safe, intentional, and real.
If this resonates with you and you're ready to co-create something raw, honest, and beautiful, I invite you to reach out.
Written with the purpose of honoring intimacy, not exploiting it. For those who feel called to explore their erotic truth — with boundaries, with beauty, with intention.